Bridging the Gap

Confronting Homophobia Over a Few Pints

Aaron Kara
8 min readJan 6, 2019
Photo by LexScope on Unsplash

I have a story to tell. One with a very important moral at the heart of it. A moral which I believe needs to be remembered in this strange time of virtual outrage and polarising politics.

A wonderful thing happened about a year ago when I was having a conversation with my girlfriend and a close friend. This close friend, let’s call him John, has an unpopular opinion. He doesn’t particularly like homosexuals. Or at the very least, feels that homosexuality is unnatural. We all live in London, my girlfriend, my friend and I. But John grew up in the Caribbean. A place that simply isn’t as socially inclusive to LGBTQI peoples as London; This statement coming from John himself. I’ve already confronted John about this, and we’ve spoken at length, but my girlfriend had no idea about his views.

This article is about the ensuing conversation, what it represents and the lessons we can learn from it.

So one day over a few pints, I, wanting to see if there had been any progress in his rather controversial opinion, asked John, “How you doing with the whole “gay” thing?” — To which he replied — “Still don’t like it.”

My girlfriend being a progressive and global young woman immediately took umbrage to John’s answer, you could almost hear her brain loading…



Aaron Kara

Writer/actor/poet/idiot. Trying to provide light-hearted content and the occasional serious poem about life and stuff, but mostly stuff